Being sappy means being overly sweet or sentimental not
professing your love to someone or promising them the sun the moon and the
stars. It is regularly regarded as sickly sweet and most men try to steer away
from it. However something they often don't realise is how well a bit of sappiness
would be received in their dating lives! Aka SERIOUS brownie points!
Women love to feel special, it’s one of the sure fire ways
to get our attention. Make us feel needed, wanted and then somehow different
from the rest and if there’s any chemistry at all you’ll have us under your
spell.
Still there is one thing to remember when converting to
sappiness…. No women wants full on sap altogether. Whether you’re a guy or a
girl hide the emotional wreck at least until you’re a bit further on in the relationship.
So here are some of my tips for getting nice and sappy ….
1.
One of the first things to remember is sappiness
can be overdone and scare someone off altogether. You have to gage what level you’re
at this point of your relationship. Are you just trying to chat this person up
or have you been married to them for the last ten years? This obviously
requires two completely different levels of mushiness!
Just the right amount can work out perfectly......
2.
Women can be soppy too, and not just with each
other. Any women who expects her other half to be Romeo while she just lavishes
in all the romance isn’t being fair. Men enjoy being told how attractive or wonderful
they are as much as any women. Although they tend to be more concerned on what
you think of their manhood they also appreciate some romantic or sappy
gestures. If they tend to roll their eyes at any kind of overly emotional spiel
why not make them their favourite meal and just say it through you actions,
they can be extremely powerful all on their own.
3.
Same can be said to any man of few words. Not
everyone has an inner poet bursting to get out! For men who break out in a
sweat at the thought of trying to find the right words to tell her how you feel
why not do it through romantic gestures. Buy her favourite flowers every once
in a while or surprise her with breakfast in bed. If you have kids why not run
her a nice warm bath and watch a DVD with the kids so she can just relax and
pamper herself. And if you are only starting to date why not take her out on a
special date.. Get her coffee at her favourite coffee place or bring her a
small present that shows that you’ve been paying attention during all those
phone calls or text messages. A small gesture to show that you’re listening can
mean more to a women that a poem about how her eyes are like the ocean…or
whatever.....
4.
One piece of advice I can give to anyone when
it comes to matters of the opposite sex…ask a member of the opposite sex! It’s
amazing how often this is looked over.
I mean who knows what women like better than a women. And
yes all women are different, we like different things but we talk and we tell
our girlfriends what is. I know what my girlfriends would love for Christmas,
what her ultimate date is and what her favourite sex position is. So surely you
have one friend of the opposite sex so get over there! When it comes to being sappy girls generally
are better so they will be able to help you construct the perfect message to send
and if they are a mutual friend of you and your partner (or prospective
partner) all the better!
1.
Getting soppy is actually really easy. Whether
you want to sleep with this person or propose there is obviously something
pretty cool or even amazing you see in them. So what is that has she got
amazing eyes, or kissable lips? Try go
for facial features before bodily ones like an amazing arse. That way you will
seem more genuine. Also remember as much as we love to be admired and told how
visually pleasing we are we also like to be regarded for our brains, talents
and abilities. Think of something she’s good at. Is she smart, brilliant with
kids, an awesome athlete..? AND here is the key to being soppy it’s actually
all about you…and how you feel about her! Though try to steer clear of the word
horny as once again you don’t want to seem like you’re just after her for one
thing! Does she make you nervous? Or make you feel happy? Being sappy doesn’t always
require flowery language.
Composing a soppy text or letter:
·
Think beauty…. ‘You are so gorgeous do you know
that?’
·
Keep specifics to the face ‘your eyes are so
beautiful and I can’t stop thinking about your perfect lips’
·
Think brains…. ‘You’re so smart, I love that I can
discuss things with you….’
·
Think talents, abilities and passions ‘God you’re
so passionate about running, I love (really like) that about you… ‘talented and
ambitious the list goes on and on’
·
Think you… ‘Being around you makes me so nervous
(or I’m really nervous to meet you/for our date) …. ‘I miss you when you’re not
here’ …… ‘I don’t know what I’d do without you’ ‘I so want to cuddle you and
kiss you’
All of these can work well on their own but when put together……
Eg:
You are so gorgeous you know that? You have such amazing
blue eyes, I could look into them all day. On top of being a stunner you’re so
smart, I love that I can learn things from you. I really admire your passion
too you make running sound so fun! I love being around you, you make me so
happy and I miss you so much when you’re not here. I want to give you a cuddle and
a kiss so much.
A text like this to a girl who finds you remotely attractive
(and who is single!) generally lands great results..another words…..
